Heys
Heys is a collection of my letters I send to myself. It's a way for me to step out of me and reflect on me, and life.
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, things are never as bad as it seems, nor are they ever as good as it seems. Vyavasthit is always trying to bring homeostasis.
That malaise you feel when you’re sick or the runners high you feel when you do long runs, both are temporary and you return to a baseline after a bit. But when you’re in that moment experiencing it, it feels like too in the nose, too overwhelming.
Try to remember that this too shall pass.
Don’t cling, don’t resist, Just witness.
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing?
Akash you utterly and clearly know everything you need to do to achieve what you want. And I literally mean every. minute. thing. Yet I don’t see you take any action towards your goals.
What gives?
1. Each action is simple, but not easy.
2. Your reward circuitry is kinda busted.
3. You’ve essentially lost trust in yourself to take on difficult tasks
4. You’ve gotten complacent to mediocrity.
What do?
1. Schedule a block of time each day for one task and then just work on it. No compromises and no disruptions allowed. You’ve to learn to sit with the problem.
2. Learn to love the process. Good news is that you already kinda do this (going to gym, running, walking, etc). You have to apply the same mindset to your work!
3. Declare trust bankruptcy! You can’t move forward with a broken system. Let go of current system and start from scratch, again. Start small, say what you’re going to do and then do it. Want to drink water? Say I’m going to drink water and then drink water. This matters, you have to earn your trust back and starting small helps you build momentum.
4. You’ll stop being complacent once you notice how insidiously it eats at your soul. Just sit and notice my friend 🙂
Hope you find this helpful
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash all problems are frame problems.
How you frame, or reframe, dictates the solutions you’ll find. You must cultivate this framing muscle, always be looking to reframe, things, events, problems, etc with a different perspective. If you don’t flex it, it’ll atrophy.
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash I notice that sometimes you say you’re going to do something but you already know internally you’re not intending/able to do it. i.e. you lack conviction. I think that’s setting a bad precedent for yourself. It’ll slowly erode your trust in yourself, and more importantly your respect.
Always say what you’re going to do and then actually do that. Or at least pour all your energy into doing that. You’ve to earn your respect, be the man of your word.
If you feel you’ve lost that respect than a simple way to quickly earn that is to make small promises to yourself and keep them!
What’s the one tiny promise you’ll make this evening?
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash If you really want to see people for who they are, you've got to let go of all the opinions or prejudices you have about them. Opinions and prejudices warp your perception about them, it's like looking through a distorted lens.
When it comes to people, you should really just have information about them, not opinions.
Thanks, and have a clear and calm evening my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, a single seed of doubt or negativity and can change the entire calculus of circumstantial evidence. Be very ruthless in pruning any negative or self doubting thoughts about yourself or anything you're trying to achieve. They don't to get live in your head. Never.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash I feel like sometimes you get so caught up in the noise of what *you* want to do that you aren’t able to listen to what the universe wants to do, through you. And you can only listen if you be quiet for a minute, with equanimity.
Shhh, what’s the universe trying to tell you?
Thanks, and have a lovely evening my deer friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, you keep saying to yourself that your inaction is due to a lack of energy but what if you’re wrong? What if it’s the other way around? What if you lack energy because you aren’t taking any action?
I think you don’t have to think too much (yes I see the irony there lol). You need to stop thinking and start doing. Anything. And I mean literally anything. Action produces information, you can use that information to propel you forwards but you gotta start.
Just do it.
Thanks, and have a lovely evening!
Akash
Hey Akash, how are you doing today?
I was just looking at these houses while walking back from gym and I notice that every house has a boundary (duh). This physical boundary is governed by the laws, but there’s also an emotional boundary. You viscerally feel it when you’re inside the house vs outside.
This made me realize, we’ve so many other emotional boundaries. We love them cause it gives us a sense of space, comfort and certainty. They’re awesome. However, they can also be very limiting, and be the source of your unhappiness. So every once in a while make a conscious effort to check what boundaries you’ve set up for yourself and are they really helping your or limiting you.
What assumptions have you made lately about what’s possible or not?
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing?
Akash you've got to learn to distinguish between what's important and what's urgent. Remember, the urgent can wait—always prioritize what's truly important. There are so many things competing for your attention, and if you don't learn to say no, you might miss out on things that matter most to you.
Whenever you're about to commit your time or energy, pause and ask yourself: is this important?
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash