Heys
Heys is a collection of my letters I send to myself. It's a way for me to step out of me and reflect on me, and life.
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, it's sometimes hard to see how much more damaging the consequences of anger can be compared to its causes. It often leads to pain for you and others, and the outcome is rarely positive.
I know you understand this, but it can be difficult to remember in the moment. That's okay-it's a skill to develop, and I believe in your ability to grow and build tools to manage it effectively.
In the meantime, I encourage you to imprint this thought in your mind: anger rarely leads to the outcome you truly desire.
Thanks, and have a beautiful day
Akash
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, when it's dusk and you look at the sky you only see a handful of stars but you intuitively know that there are other stars in the sky too and you'll start seeing them as the night progresses. Does that mean they were shining less bright before? Off course we both know that's not the case, for you personally, they were shining as bright as on the day you were born and will continue to shine that way on the day you die. They'll objectively and really shine constantly throughout your lifetime. It's just that when there's a light pollution you can't see them.
Similarly in your life, there are things and people in your life that objectively and really shine as bright as they can for you, remember that when things seem hazy in the moment and you seem to be losing touch with reality, hold on to your constants!
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash, you don't have to wait for inspiration, just by doing the mundane physical act of sitting down and starting the work you set in motion a mysterious but infallible sequence of events that would produce inspiration.
Shut up, sit down and start the work. Chop wood, carry water.
Hope you sit down and do the work my friend
Akash
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash to be successful you don't have to set yourself up for success, rather you've to be careful not to set yourself up for failure.
You do that a lot by overpromising. No you're not going to be able to do this consistently for the 7 days, or a month or whatever. Your present you is trying to relish on the future glory but that glory has not been achieved yet. Usually this is fine when you need some motivation but a lot of the times the present you does not want to do the work, it just relishes in this potential glory.
Just focus on getting today's work done and let the future you take care of himself!
Thanks, have a lovely day my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing?
Akash it might seem counter intuitive but you need to be more introspective, not less. Ironically, Introspection is what allows you to be more present, to think less about you.
I want you to create a routine for yourself, a daily 5 minute journal. You can talk about anything you like, what's important is the act of sitting down and writing :)
Can you do that for me?
Have a lovely day my friend
Akash
Hey Akash how are you doing today?
Akash January is always the hardest month for you simply because you feel guilty for not doing enough in the last year and try to compensate for it by taking on a lot of things for the next year, which kinda sets you up for failure again. Problem is, you set these lofty goals and then you have no clue on how to go from point A to point B. So you just don't do shit. What you need to learn is to break it down into tiny insignificant tasks you can do every day. You want small wins every day. Go do something tiny toward your goal!
What small thing will you do today towards your goal?
Thanks and have a lovely evening
Akash
Hey akash, how are you doing today?
Akash you should have a framework for making decisions. It's not like you don't already have right now, it's just implicit. You should instead make this process explicit. A framework will guide when you're spending inordinate amount of time making decisions about for trivial things, or very little time on important things. It also helps you make better decisions over time cause you can refer back to see what worked and didn't and why. Most importantly, it'll help you take the burden of making decisions that you feel were very consequential. It's like, "Oh I messed up, hmm why did I decided this path, ah I see it's because my framework led me down this path, what can we do better", you get the idea. It helps you detach a bit from feeling guilty or prideful for you decisions, it makes you objective
Have a lovely evening my friend
Akash
Hey akash how are you doing today?
Akash I like that you try to conjecture ideas about your behaviors; I think you should take a scientific approach to them. i.e. Your conjectures should be falsifiable and reproducible. Falsifiable because if you can't test and disprove your conjectures than you can't make progress on them. Reproducible because they help build confidence.
I like this approach cause it also helps you be objective and a bit detached from them.
Thanks and have a lovely evening my freind
Akash
p.s. Don't be afraid to ask your friends and family for help, sometimes they know more about you than you yourself!
Hey Akash, how are you doing today?
I've been thinking about this today, you always assume that your emotions drive your behaviors but what if it's the other way around? What if you want to drive a certain behavior and so you induce the emotions that (you've learnt over time) will get you there?
For example, when you're yelling at someone, you assume that it's because you're angry but what if it's your goal to yell at them and so you get angry as you know it's easier to yell when you're angry.
Or when you're avoiding some task because you feel uneasy, it's more probable that it is your goal to avoid the task and so you create this sense of uneasiness.
I think it probably didn't start this way but I suspect over time your brain learnt that it can induce certain emotions to get you to do certain things. What'd you think?
Have a beautiful day my friend
Akash
Akash